Estranged celebrity couple Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt are entering a rough part in their divorce as the two can’t seem to park up their differences for the sake of their 6 children who will be trapped in the middle.
Jolie’s lawyers made a statement in papers filed on Tuesday saying that Pitt is “Likely terrified that the public will learn the truth.” Jolie’s lawyers claim Pitt is attacking Jolie’s character in order to save himself.
It’s never easy separating, as one partner usually feels more aggrieved than the other, but what IS important is to put the children’s wellbeing at the centre of the process, because I believe divorce is a process NOT an event.
It takes time to work through the 7 stages of a divorce emotionally. It’s not easy, but important to divorce with dignity. Read more about -> ‘The 7 Stages Of Recovery During A Divorce.’
One question I ask all the parents I work with is, ‘How do you want your children to describe this period of their lives in 10 years time?’ as this focuses you on the important, long term picture.
I have recently written a brand new ‘Divorce Journal for Children’ because separation and divorce are traumatic events for families.
This journal is designed to help children express, explore and understand some of the strong emotions that they may be feeling and to help them process the divorce for themselves.
Keeping a Journal is a very simple, but powerful way to support children.
As caring adults, we can help by simply acknowledging & listening to how a child may be feeling, without trying to “fix it”.
This Journal is designed to support open and honest communication and to help children feel heard, understood and supported during a time of great upheaval.
Suggestions for Parents
It’s very important to explain to your child that this is a different kind of book. This is a Journal where your child can share their feelings and thoughts or simply process what’s happening to them for themselves. It won’t be marked, they won’t be judged and it is totally up to them how they use it.
Young children may need to have the Journal read aloud to them and to do the Journal little and often.
Some children prefer to write and draw in their Journal at their own pace and in their own time. They may enjoy picking and choosing the order in which they write in it. Let your child decide for themselves how they’d like to use their Journal. They will enjoy feeling in control of the process and exploring their thoughts.
Help your child to decide a safe place to keep their Journal.
Let your child know that they can write in their Journal whenever they like.
Make sure your child has plenty of writing and drawing materials available. It’s also a good idea to buy new pens and pencils to make the Journal important and special. It helps to make the process of writing in their Journal important.
If you are reading the Journal with your child and doing it together, pick a quiet time, turn off the TV, and put away your mobile phone. Choose a private place, create a safe space and focus on really listening to your child without interrupting or making them feel judged, or guilty about what may come up. This is about helping your child feel heard, understood and supported while they go through this life changing event. Be accepting and non-judgemental. There are no right or wrong answers to their feelings and experiences. Accept everything and ponder and reflect later about what you discover.
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