What makes a good parent?
Amazon lists an astounding number of dieting books—more than 16,000. But parenting guides far exceed that number: there are some 40,000 of them, including of course my Parenting Made Easy books!
People, it seems, are even more nervous about their parenting than they are about their waistlines but there are 10 competencies that predict good parenting outcomes, parent-child bonds and children’s happiness, health and success.
Surprisingly, some don’t even involve kids! 🙂
Decades of research reveal 10 essential parenting skill sets. A new study of 2,000 parents by Robert Epstein, determines which skills are most important to bringing up healthy, happy and successful kids.
- Giving love and affection tops the list. Then comes a surprise: managing stress and having a good relationship with the other parent are more helpful than some child-focused behaviours.
- All types of people are equally competent at child-rearing—and anyone can learn how to be a better parent with a little effort.
So, don’t beat yourself up just ‘Pause To Ponder’ what small changes you can make this week to be the best parent you can be.
Here are the top 10 listed in order from most to least important, predict a strong parent-child bond and children’s happiness, health, and success:
- Love and affection. “You support and accept your child, are physically affectionate, and spend quality one-on-one time together.”
- Stress Management. “You take steps to reduce stress for yourself and your child, practice relaxation techniques, and promote positive interpretations of events.”
- Relationship skills. “You maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse, significant other, or co-parent and model effective relationship skills with others.”
- Autonomy and Independence. “You treat your child with respect and encourage him or her to become self-sufficient and self-reliant.”
- Education and learning. “You promote and model learning and provide educational opportunities for your child.
- Life skills. “You provide for your child, have a steady income, and plan for the future.”
- Behaviour management. “You make extensive use of positive reinforcement and punish only when other methods of managing behavior have failed.”
- Health. “You model a healthy lifestyle and good habits, such as regular exercise and proper nutrition.”
- Religion. “You support spiritual or religious development and participate in spiritual or religious activities.”
- Safety. “You take precautions to protect your child and maintain awareness of the child’s activities and friends.”