I’ve recently launched a new series of free Divorce videos called -> Divorce Step by Step.

Divorce Step By Step has been set up specifically to help you address the range of issues and matters you have to face when going through a divorce. I have been through the process myself so I know 1st hand how you are feeling and what you are going to go through.

I have come out the other side, stronger and fitter in every sense of the word. It’s not easy but with the right help and guidance the Divorce Step By Step videos will help you to help yourself make it less of a minefield.

I think it’s really important that you remember that divorce is a process NOT an event.

No two divorce situations are identical, but I believe sharing your story will be extremely helpful to other people going through the same process. Simply email me your divorce story. All contributions will be edited to keep the identity of everyone anonymous and names will be replaced with initials and we won’t publish any anonymous contributions.

The website is not a place to vent your anger at your ex – it’s a place to get information, ideas & strategies and it’s my intention to empower you to make good decisions going forward.

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There are three areas in which the videos will seek to guide you.
1. Legal– we’ve recruited some of the top family lawyers to take you through the paperwork and process.
2. Financial– guidance on what you can expect to pay and what you might expect to get.
3. Emotional– the effect on the children and just as importantly YOU.
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Go to Divorce Step By Step to explore also join in the conversation and send your story to [email protected]
Feel free to ask questions and we will offer our advice in response to your email in a video.
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I’m here to support you through my Divorce Videos,  Divorce Coaching Programmes, Divorce Workshops and with my inexpensive Divorce Resources

My child seems to have little reaction to our divorce.

One of the many questions I get asked when I am working with families going through a divorce is: “My child seems to have little reaction to our divorce. Does that mean they are OK? “

Divorce is usually a difficult time for all family members. However, in the end, the majority of children come through the divorce process intact. Children are resilient and typically experience several difficult emotional events during their childhood – a best friend who moves away, the death of a grandparent or favourite family pet, to even when you move house or they change nursery. Most children can handle some stress in their lives and they take their lead from you in how you handle life’s ups and downs. If you seem calm and confident they feel relaxed and assured. Most children will be sad, upset, angry or scared about the changes to their family life that divorce will bring but they will recover and grow as we all do from new experiences. So make sure you have the support and help you need during this challenging and stressful time, as you are a role model in all that you do and say, and you are creating memories that will last a long time.

All families are different and some children have significant difficulties during the divorce process. They experience fear, anger, sadness and grief. Frequently, they keep these feelings to themselves during this difficult time because they don’t want to burden you at this stressful time. Often parents will tell me how well their child is dealing with the ongoing divorce. However, when I see the child they express deep emotions and concerns that their parents are unaware of. Sometimes a few sessions with a professional can alleviate these fears and improve communication within the family.

Keeping the lines of communication open and asking good questions, regularly and informally, helps your child express their feelings healthily and a child who feels heard feels understood.

If your child suddenly starts doing poorly in school, becomes aggressive or withdrawn, or experiences lots of crying spells, do seek some professional help. It is not weakness to ask for help during one of Life’s most stressful events. Some children, with additional needs may be more vulnerable to begin with and they will have a more difficult time during the divorce so keep talking, and more importantly listening, through asking simple questions.