As I prepare for my beautiful daughter to leave  my nest and fly off to Manchester Metropole University in a few weeks I read with interest this article as I am also currently going through a divorce after 21 years.


It is peak move-in time on college campuses across the country. For some parents that means the beginning of their lives without kids in the house.

While some parents gracefully leap into this next phase of life, a growing number of baby boomers experience marital problems bubbling to the surface. “Gray divorces,” splits of couples over 50, are on the rise.

“It’s when people have to look at their identity outside of being co-parents, outside of being professionals and they have to assess, ‘Do I know this person sitting next to me? Have we nurtured the relationship?'” said Eli Karam, assistant professor at the University of Louisville and president of the Kentucky Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, on The Daily Circuit.

In 1990, fewer than 1 in 10 individuals who divorced were 50 or older, Karam said. Now, that number has jumped to 1 in 4, accounting for more than 600,000 divorces in 2009.

Karam and Lise Stoessel, author and educator, offered advice on keeping marriages happy and healthy once kids leave the nest.