Are You Ready For a New Relationship?

“You’ve been out of the dating scene for a long time. You’ve also just gone through the stress of divorce. You want to date and possibly build a new relationship with a member of the opposite sex. How do you know you are ready though? Knowing when to date after divorce means you must know yourself and your relationship patterns. It also means being ready mentally, emotionally and physically. Are you ready?

Answer: Attitude is EverythingThere are people who allow the end of their marriage to destroy them. They hold onto painful feelings, resentment and fear and spend the rest of their lives stuck in the past. Others refuse to give into the negative feelings by working through the process in a pro-active way. These people find that divorce is not only an ending but also a new beginning. They are the ones who thrive and survive. So, before you consider a new relationship put on a positive attitude!It’s About GrowthThere is no greater motivator than emotional pain when it comes to taking stock and gaining needed insights. People who are able to move on to rich, rewarding lives after divorce don’t allow anger and resentment to keep them from finding a better way of living.It takes Determination and a willingness to heal old wounds before you are ready for a new relationship. Owning the role you played in the demise of your marriage, working to make needed adjustments in the way you inter-act in a relationship gives you a better chance at succeeding in your next relationship.

Hold Yourself ResponsibleNo one is blameless when it comes to divorce. Take responsibility for your mistakes. If you don’t you will carry the same mixed up perceptions and “baggage” into the next relationship.

Examine your expectations of what a relationship should be and work at identifying any skewed beliefs you have. Work at correcting negative issues you have and then get on with your life. Just remember, the pain is there for a reason. Don’t let the lesson you need to learn get away from you.

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