I’ve got two kids –  I’ve got a 17 year old daughter and  a 19 year old son so I know first hand about navigating the choppy waters of the teenage years. (Here’s my MP3 download of step-by–step ideas, strategies, techniques and skills that eliminates the frustrations and worries of bringing up a teenager ) https://sueatkinsparentingcoach.com/teenager-troubles/

But things HAVE changed since I grew up with the increase in 24/7 connection, Facebook, Twitter and social media interaction, and the way kids access all sorts of  information means that they need boundaries, explanation and  guidance. They also need protection.

It’s not good  enough to bury your head in the sand and pretend it’s not happening as a recent study reported that one in three children aged ten have viewed pornography on the internet.

So what do we do as parents ?

We are in a really difficult and different and almost impossible position today thanks to the increasingly pornographic and hypersexualised culture that we seem to be living in. Children and teenagers are being exposed to a heavy  diet of soft core porn and these images are now so commonplace that they are almost impossible to avoid. Just flip through a magazine at your local  supermarket checkout, channel surf,  look at billboards near your kids school, or watch TV ads, and you will be bombarded with images that a decade ago would have been considered soft-core porn.

I have already written about my embarrassment as I watched Nicole Scherzinger formerly of the Pussy Cat Dolls cavorting and singing her extremely sexually explicit lyrics on the family show ‘Britain’s Got Talent’ to my horror and this is by no means an isolated incident.

Bringing up kids in a porn culture

These images have a profound effect on girls as well as boys because they provide them with the cultural cues on what it means to be a woman or a man. As children begin to develop their gender and sexual identities, they become especially reliant on media images to figure out what is cool, hot and most importantly, valued by their peer group. So what does it mean for a girl to mature in a culture where Katie Price,  Kerri Katona, Paris Hilton and Rhianna are role models?

What do we do when kids are downloading explicit images that any 13 year old can freely access by typing PORN into Google?

And what is MOST shocking is the sheer level of brutality where sex is used to make hate, not love, to a woman’s body.

Read this excellent article from http://www.tweenparent.com/articles/view/274  by Gail Dines about Bringing Up Kids in a Porn Culture

Claire Perry, MP for the Devizes Constituency led a debate in the House of Commons, on the 23rd November, calling for a change in regulations to require all UK-based Internet Service Providers to restrict universal access to pornographic content by implementing an opt-in system that requires verification that a user is over 18 for access to such material.

I’d love to hear your thoughts – is this the way forward ?

 

 

Here are a selection of my other articles on this worrying subject.

Raquel Welch and Sue Atkins speaks out ….. sex, porn, love and self respect.

Where has my little girl gone?