Many parents I work with are concerned about competition and its effect on their children.

Others feel that competition is nothing to worry about.

In fact,  I believe that moderate competition is good for children, but extreme competition can devastate a child. Research tells us that temperament, culture, talent and the age of your child can all affect how your child handles competition.

Some say that children are not born with a competitive urge. They learn it and that they don’t begin to compete with and compare their skills to others until they’re about 5 years old, and most children can’t work well as a member of a team until they’re 10 or 11.

In fact they also have to be 10 or 11 before they can handle defeat gracefully.

Here is a fascinating article by North Carolina State University about how to handle competitiveness positively and healthily.

 Advantages and Disadvantages of Competition

 How do you handle it ?