Inspired by George Clooney’s latest film, The Descendants, which features a difficult father-daughter relationship, family expert Sue Atkins has been answering your questions and making suggestions about how members who have posted on our Parents of Teens message board may find a way forward. The following message was posted by community member foodmum:

“I have a 14-year-old daughter and we were really close until she hit 13 and ever since it’s as if we can’t have a ingle conversation about ANYTHING without it ending in a slinging match. The thing is I know it’s not just her it’s me as well, we just seem to clash constantly. Every day I wake up and think ‘today it will be different’ and I try to hold my tongue, count to 10 and stay calm but she ramps things up and doesn’t seem satisfied until we’re yelling, then she can flounce off. She’s always posting things on Facebook about how I’m doing her head in and I hate the way she sees me, I just don’t know how to stop it.”
 

Sue Atkins says…

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